Hi Reader,
My daughter Xanthe is nearly halfway through her first year of high school, and let me be brutally honest, it's a dumpster fire.
I won’t go into the nitty gritty, because this isn’t about the details. It’s about something bigger that I know many of us are feeling:
What happens to us when we’re the ones holding everyone else up?
Some of you are helping aging parents transition into assisted living.
Some of you are supporting partners navigating job upheaval.
Some of you are walking alongside someone you love through illness or grief.
It’s hard.
Not “missed-my-morning-coffee” hard.
It’s soul-deep, bone-tired, “who even am I anymore?” kind of hard.
Because when you pour all your time, energy, money, and care into someone else, what’s left for you?
Do you even stop to acknowledge that you have needs?
I know I don’t always.
In fact, I sometimes feel guilty even thinking it. Like…What kind of mother/daughter/friend/person am I to be thinking of myself right now?
But here’s the truth: You are not selfish for needing support. You’re human.
Humans need rest, space, and someone to check in on them too.
So let me be the one to ask you today, really ask you: How are you, the helper, doing?
If your answer is “not great,” or even “I don’t know” then maybe it’s time for a reset.
Maybe it’s time to put your name back on your own damn ‘to-do’ list.
You’re worth it.
Even in the mess. Especially in the mess.
With you in it,
Suzanne
PS. The Get Your Shit Together Summit is on next week!
The mission of the summit is to help you get organised in a way that works for you and your brain, while having fun and staying true to your weird self.
I’ll be speaking on June 2nd about Setting Boundaries with Yourself So That You Can Get Shit Done! Get all the details and grab your free ticket here (affiliate link)
