You’re not responsible for saving people...

Hi Reader,

There are billions of people on Earth, and some of them are going to love and appreciate you, and others aren’t.

You’re not for everyone, and everyone is not for you.

That’s what makes it so special when you do find the few people with whom you have a genuine connection. You’ll know how sacred that is, because you’ve experienced it when it isn’t.

But the longer you spend trying to force people to love you who aren’t capable, the longer you’re robbing yourself of genuine connection.

The longer you stay small, tucked under people who use you as an emotional doormat, a ‘back up’ plan option, an unpaid therapist, or unpaid help for their physical labour, the longer you keep yourself from finding the community you truly crave.

• Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll stop being liked.
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• Maybe you’ll be forgotten altogether.
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• Maybe if you stop trying, the friendship will cease.
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• Maybe if you stop messaging your phone will stay silent.
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• Maybe if you stop pouring all your love into someone, the connection between you will dissolve.

That doesn't mean you ruined a relationship. It means that the only thing sustaining it was the energy that you alone were putting in.

That’s not a loving connection, that’s attachment.

The most precious resource you have is your energy. What you give it to each day is what you will create more of in your life .

When you understand this, you’ll begin to realise why you feel so drained when you spend time with people who aren’t a fit for you.

You’re not responsible for saving people.

Nor are you responsible for convincing them to want to be saved.

It's not your job to show up for people and give your life away to them, little by little, moment by moment, because you feel bad for them, because someone told you that you “should”, because you feel a sense of obligation, or because underneath it all you feel afraid not to be liked.

Decide you’re deserving of real friendships, true connections and complete love from people who are healthy and thriving.

Then wait in the mystery for a little bit…

…and watch how quickly everything begins to change!

Much love,

Suzanne